She Is More Precious Than Rubies: Becoming a Virtuous and Capable Woman of God (Proverbs 31:10)

The Treasure of a Virtuous Woman

“Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.” – Proverbs 31:10 (NLT)

When Scripture asks, “Who can find?” it reveals something profound. A virtuous woman is rare. She does not just appear by chance. She is sought after like a hidden treasure, and when found, she becomes one of life’s greatest blessings.

But here is an important question: “Do you believe you are that treasure?”
Do you live in a way that reflects your God-given worth so that when someone finds you, they can say, “I am truly blessed”?

Being virtuous and capable means you are valuable beyond measure. God has already equipped you with wisdom, gifts, and strength for every season. You do not need to wait for marriage, motherhood, or a promotion to start preparing. “You live ready” by walking daily in the fullness of who God created you to be.

Why Growing Now Matters

Many people assume growth will come naturally later, when marriage occurs, when a job is secured, or when a ministry expands. But true preparation starts now.

Proverbs 31:25 (NLT) says, “She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.”

This woman does not scramble when challenges arise; she is already prepared.

I have learned this personally. I may not enjoy cleaning or doing laundry, but I do them because they are necessary. I love cooking and organizing, so I do those with joy. Yet God also calls me to grow in areas I do not naturally enjoy. It is in those moments He builds balance, perseverance, and humility.

Ask yourself: “What are you working on today that will make you capable tomorrow?”

Surrendering Control to God

Let us be honest, surrender is not easy. I have struggled with wanting to control my life, especially when it feels like God is moving too slowly. But true peace comes when we let Him lead.

Matthew 11:28-30 (NLT) reminds us:
“Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest… For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”

When we surrender control, Jesus takes over and brings about a transformation that our strength alone could never achieve.

Qualities of a Noble Woman in Action

A virtuous woman does not just talk about faith; she lives it daily.

• Confidence rooted in God – not beauty or status. (Philippians 4:13)
• Purposeful work ethic – diligent and dependable. (Proverbs 6:6-8)
• Positive mindset – focusing on good, pure, and praiseworthy things. (Philippians 4:8)
• Generosity and service – reaching out to those in need. (Proverbs 31:20)
• Faithful stewardship – managing time and money wisely. (Luke 16:11)

The Ruby Imagery: Why Rubies?

Rubies are among the “rarest and most valuable gemstones” in the world. Some are worth more than gold. Proverbs 31:10 says, “She is more precious than rubies,” meaning her value surpasses even the finest jewels.

But rubies are formed under “intense heat and pressure” deep within the earth, just like godly women are shaped through life’s trials.

2 Corinthians 12:9 (NLT) says, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.”
And James 1:2-4 (NLT) adds, “When your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.”

Pressure does not destroy you; it refines you. Every challenge you face makes you more radiant and resilient.

Balancing Virtue and Capability

Virtue speaks of “inner character“, while capability speaks of “outer strength and wisdom in action.”

A virtuous woman with no capability struggles to manage her responsibilities. A capable woman without virtue may succeed outwardly but lack a spiritual foundation.

Proverbs 31:17 (NLT) says, “She is energetic and strong, a hard worker.”
And Proverbs 31:30 (NLT) reminds us, “Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.”

Both are essential. Together, they create a woman of impact and influence.

My Personal Growth Journey

I have not always felt virtuous or capable. I have battled selfishness, procrastination, and distractions. But God’s grace has been my teacher.

Proverbs 19:17 (NLT) says, “If you help the poor, you are lending to the Lord, and he will repay you!”

That verse changed how I view generosity.

And Ecclesiastes 11:4 (NLT) warns, “Farmers who wait for perfect weather never plant. If they watch every cloud, they never harvest.”

I learned that waiting for the “right time” only breeds delay. Growth comes through consistent action.

Pressure as God’s Refining Fire

Hebrews 12:10-11 (NLT) teaches that God disciplines us for our good, so that we may share in His holiness. Though painful, pressure produces a “peaceful harvest of right living.”

Pressure exposes weakness but also reveals hidden strength. Do not resent it. Embrace it as God’s refining tool.

Conclusion: Rise as a Virtuous and Capable Woman

Becoming a virtuous and capable woman is a “lifelong process” of surrender, growth, and grace. God refines you like a ruby through heat, pressure, and time.

You need both “virtue” (godly character) and “capability” (practical wisdom) to thrive in every season. Together, they make you rare, valuable, and impactful.

So, sister, do not wait until “someday” to prepare. Start today.
Invest in your growth. Build your character. Develop your skills. Fear the Lord.

And when the right man finds you, he will not be giving you value. He will be recognizing the value you already carry.

“You are more precious than rubies. Live like it.”

So my lovelies, what part of this message spoke to you the most?
Do you see yourself growing into a virtuous and capable woman of God?

Share your thoughts or reflections in the comments below. I would love to hear from you!

Frequently Asked Questions About Virtuous and Capable Women

Do I have to be perfect to be considered virtuous?
No. Virtue is not about perfection but direction, a heart that seeks to honor God even when it stumbles. (Proverbs 24:16)

Can a single woman be virtuous and capable?
Absolutely. Virtue and capability are for every woman, not just wives.

How can I grow in capability with limited resources?
Start small. Learn online, seek mentors, read books, and practice daily discipline.

What if I fail often in areas like discipline or generosity?
Failure is part of growth. God looks at your heart, not your perfection.

How do I balance strength and femininity?
True femininity in Christ includes wisdom, resilience, and grace. Strength enhances your femininity; it does not take from it.

Why are virtuous women compared to rubies?
Because rubies are rare, radiant, and resilient — just like women refined by God.